“I’m proud to announce that I will be attending community college in the fall.”
“Really? You’re way too smart for that.”
“Don’t waste your time on that.”
Yes, that is a conversation I have had multiple times. This is the culture we are raised in and this generation seems to think that the only way you are successful is by leaving home right at 18, traveling halfway across the country, and going to a full 4 year university. And there is nothing wrong with that at all! If that’s right for you, good for you! I mean it sounded pretty great to me too.
But then I didn’t get the money I needed to make that four year college affordable. I was going to spend my last summer at home working my butt off just to help my parents cover the crazy tuition. And for what? To go to a school I would graduate from with a cumulative debt of $60,000-80,000 to pay off fresh out of college? And really that is understandable for some people if that’s really where you feel you need to be. But for me, that didn’t seem like the way I wanted to start my life.
My parents mentioned staying home for a year and getting my GE done at a college nearby but I was hesitant because at school, community college was kind of a joke. Many students teased about it and thought of it as the suggestion that counselors made when your transcript wasn’t up to par for the schools you actually wanted to apply to. And everyone was going away and I didn’t want to be left behind. But let me rephrase my question: Should I go off to a school I would graduate from with $60,000-80,000 of student loans to pay off fresh out of college, just because I felt pressure from my school and peers?
And let me say something, not to brag but to make my point. I had above a 4.0 GPA, I was in the top ten percent of my class, was a runner up for valedictorian, and got into the schools of my choice. But that doesn’t mean that I wanted to launch myself straight into more hard-core academics at such a high cost, both monetarily and emotionally.
We have to stop telling our students that leaving is the only option. Stop putting everyone in the same category. The college system has become more and more competitive. It’s all about who can get in where. Acceptance letters are posted at schools and all over Facebook. And it’s great to be proud of your accomplishments! I love to celebrate my friends’ successes with them. But to me college is a personal achievement.
And personally, being able to do everything I want to do instead of forcing myself straight into the most academic, competitive program in the country after working my butt off for four years, is more of an accomplishment than anything else. And I shouldn’t feel shame for that. I shouldn’t feel the need to have to explain to my friends and family why a “gifted student” like me isn’t leaving for school right away.
Our culture is so hypocritical. We are supposed to be the educated, accepting generation that is open to change and progress, yet we continue to fall into certain pressures of society. Want to be accepting? Stop using acceptance to excuse and allow stupid behavior and try to instead respect intelligent decisions, even if they differ from popular culture. I want to be a well-rounded, happy person. I want to be successful in my eyes, not just the eyes of others. We all deserve that. And that is why we have to stop telling people that one type of education is better than the other. Someone once told me that comparing colleges was like comparing artists. How can you compare the Beatles to Mozart? Both extremely talented and successful, but different. Different doesn’t mean unequal.
So my mom had a friend who worked at the local community college and I agreed to go check it out. The counselor there told me that with my AP credits, I would only need about 3 semesters to finish my GE. So with a year there and a few summer classes, I could transfer to the private four-year university of my choice as a junior, when I’m really only of sophomore age, saving me about $65,000 and getting me out of college a year earlier. Still think I’m “too smart” for community college?
Also, with some of the money I save, I can take dance classes, travel to visit friends, and, for a refreshing change, have time to do the things I want to do, not just things I have to do: get a job I love, read a book, play piano, write a story. Not to mention the fact that I get to stay home with my family and friends another year, which in this teenage culture is also somewhat frowned upon. But it’s a plus in my mind.
And the best part of all–Want to know what my diploma will say when I graduate? The name of my four-year university, just like anyone else. Except mine will cost a lot less in both money and stress.
So, I am proud to announce that I will be attending community college in the fall. No, my attendance doesn’t mean I’m not smart. I got into multiple well-known, four-year universities of my choice. My decision to stay at home another year doesn’t mean I’m immature. It mean I am mature enough to make decisions for my future, not just for the instantaneous excitement. It means I’m happy, I love my hometown, and I have good memories here. It means that I want to save money and start my life in less debt. And I’m not going to miss out on the “college experience.” I’m going to have a great one, and just because it’s different from someone else’s doesn’t mean it’s inferior.
So I’m not “too smart “for my choice. I’m smart BECAUSE of my choice.
Want to know what happens? Check in with me in 10 years. I plan on being be a successful, well-rounded, happy individual.
*Update, for anyone who was wondering (12/1/16): I am on track to transfer to the university of my choice in the Fall of 2017 with my GE completed. I have also played the lead in two musical theater productions, traveled to San Diego, Portland, and Nashville to visit friends, and I have a job at the book store of my choice, making money and building a perfect resume for an English Major. I wouldn’t have traded my choice for anything.
8 thoughts on “Apparently there’s a problem with smart choices…”
You are wise beyond your years. I’m sharing this with my kids when they hit the college-seeking years. Wishing you a wonderful and enriching experience!
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I love your article! I attended Skyline Community College and transferred to UC Santa Cruz in 2003. Skyline prepared me incredibly well for the UC. I actually felt like I had an advantage over many of peers in upper division UC classes, because I received an enormous amount of writing coaching in community college.
Now I am the chair of the Learning Skills Department at Folsom Lake College. We hope to see you in our Tutoring Centers. They are a great place to study; maybe you’ll even apply for a tutoring job!
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You are to be commended for your willingness to speak what many lack the confidence to share. You are a true leader, and I hope you continue to speak your truth and share with other high school students your amazing story.
You are a life changer, Folsom Lake College needs to take you with them when they outreach to Folsom High!!
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You are smart for making this choice! Not only are you saving an amazing amount of money that others will have to work years to repay but the professors at Los Rios CC are awesome. I have a friend going to Portland State that realized most of her professors also taught at the CC there. She is now going to the CC and will continue to the University when she gets as much as she can out of the CC. She had to realize on her own (and now has a year debt) — just like you had much pressure to “go away” to college. I keep trying to explain exactly this “I could transfer to the private four-year university of my choice as a junior, when I’m really only of sophomore age, saving me about $65,000 and getting me out of college a year earlier. ” Good for you for making a decision best for yourself. PS – Not many girls in Computer Science classes……also another good choice $$$. Just sayin’ Professor Hayes, CIS, ARC
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Welcome to the Los Rios colleges. I heard the Chancellor speak to your blog post at Sacramento City’s convocation, and the audience cheered when he read, “So I’m not “too smart “for my choice. I’m smart BECAUSE of my choice.” I know you will find your success at Folsom Lake College and that you will go on to do amazing things. Already you are one of our ambassadors and I look for forward to hearing of your progress and your many inevitable achievements. Best of luck to you, Madison.
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Madison – We are putting on a Counselor Conference for the Sacramento region on December 8th. We would love to have you on our student panel to discuss your smart decision. All of the community colleges will be represented. Please send me an email. We’d love to talk to you.
Hello! Thank you for your great feedback. Could I get your email address? I would love to find out more about your event!
Love your April Blog…it is amazing what happens when we deprive ourselves of the things we think we need. It’s great not to be owned by our possessions